Its11 pm Thursday night, tomorrow is everyone’s day off (in most Middle Eastern countries weekend i Friday and Saturday). A woman calls me and asks me with her loud voice how was the Ravioli that I ordered earlier that day. I tell her how weird I am feeling because of her call at this hour of the night, but then she explains to me that she is the wife of the chef which happens to be the owner of the restaurant as well and she is checking customers satisfaction where my name happened to appear on his phone that day.
But I am not CONVINCED
Its all said in her tone of voice, my guess is that her husband went through a phone inspection that night and perhaps she got suspicious of my number, if you think about it for a second! why would the wife of a restaurant owner call me at the mid of the night to ask me how my Ravioli was, and I can hear how she is not a bit apologetic about calling me at this late hour.
After I hung up the phone, I thought how insecure this woman must be. It is sad to say a lot of women are taught early on to always check their husbands or their guy’s phone and keep investigating their acts, as they may be snatched away by another women, and leave them, and it’s always that they will be snatched and as if without any fault and wrongdoing by the husband.
Feelings of Insecurity Need to be Replaced with Empowerment
Women often are constantly threatened by abandonment. What’s worse, is that we are taught how our lives would end if this abandonment happens, so even if in a bad marriage that serves no purpose, especially bringing up a balanced and healthy family, they keep appearances and they stay. I hate to bring the bad news, but if a man chooses to be outside a marriage he will find a way to stay away, meaning, he will find a way to cheat on you, even with the toughest protocols and security checks you implement they won’t keep him. Feelings of insecurity need to be replaced with assurance and empowerment that you can move on.
At last, my call with the restaurant owner’s wife ended with me saying “No I have no comments on the food and everything was fine”. I did not feel like ordering from that place again. I think it will come with loads of bad energy although it was one of the Yummiest Italian food that I had in Amman.